How LOVE Conquers fear
There is a persistent, common underlying emotion that seems to drive a persons motivation and desire to embrace possibility and unfamiliarity. It’s an emotion that each of us feels sometimes; an emotion that can lead either to discovery, or despair. When overcome, new doors can be opened, new experiences can be embraced, new memories can be made, and love can flourish. Yet when we let fear take control, it can cause immense regret, dissatisfaction, anxiety, and anguish. Unfortunately, many of us are governed by fear. Even though we’ve only been on this journey for a few weeks, we’ve experienced the tenacity of this emotion, and the exhaustion it can bring with it.
In the weeks leading up to our adventure, it was interesting to see the reactions we got from family, friends, and various individuals we shared our future traveling plans with. Most responses were optimistic and enthusiastic, and we could hear the happiness in people’s voices as they congratulated us and wished us luck. While these responses all followed with remarks to be careful of our surroundings and be vigilant while in crowded places, somepeoples’ responses made those things the focal point of their congratulations and well wishes. After hearing some of these fear based replies, we couldn’t help but take a step back and question the timing of this trip. We wondered, is it the right time to go? Are we being naive or negligent for going in such a time of terrorism? Should we cancel all together, or just re-route? All these questions, rooted in genuine concern and fear, did have validity. However, we wanted to remain true to ourselves and put into action the very thing we’ve always believed- Love conquers ALL fear, meaning, that fear and love cannot coexist.
Fear is simply an acronym for: False Evidence Appearing Real, and that’s exactly what it is. Fear is a good story teller that can make us suffer over things that may never happen! In her book Anatomy of the Spirit, Caroline Myss elaborates on the wisdom and laws of the Christian Sacraments, Hindu Chakras, and the Kabbalah’s tree of life in order to explain how the human body and spirit work together. She states that as humans, we all share common emotional and psychological experiences. For example, “everyone fears abandonment, loss, and betrayal; anger is as toxic within a Jewish body as it is within a Christian or Hindu body; and we are all drawn to love. When it comes to the health of our spirits and our bodies, we have no differences.” She proceeds to explain the toxicity of fearful thinking, and the toll it can take on your entire being; mind, body, and spirit. The source of this nagging emotion comes from our own uncontrolled minds, or “delusions”. An untrained mind will resort to its primatial past of fear, which comes from the human instinct to survive, either by fight or flight; stimulated by fear that we may not eat the next meal, fear that we may not have shelter, fear that we may not live to see the light of tomorrow.
The difference between humans and animals is consciousness, and when humans do not control their consciousness, they can act like animals living in fear. However, taking control of your consciousness (your thoughts) is often easier said than done. We are no exceptions, and often fall short because of simply getting stuck in our own heads. So, how can one be practical about fighting and conquering fear, regaining control of consciousness, and letting love take control? There is no one specific answer, but every human has the power and ability to control their conscious thoughts by becoming aware when they are in this fear driven state, and by taking responsibility, and being courageous enough to vulnerably press on anyway. Here are some tools that have helped us when we’ve become aware that we are living out of fear instead of love…
- We need to be open and honest when we are feeling afraid, and be willing to confide in our close family, friends, and/or safe others. We’ve found that a lot of fear is valid, but still irrational, and often, loving, safe, and sometimes more objective others can shine the light and help calm our fears, and help bring us back into reality. Having a network of relationships that help shine the light on fear and bring LOVE to the surface, so that LOVE becomes the more primary focus is one of the most effective ways to conquer fear.
- As mimetic beings, it’s important to bring our gaze back onto everything that is good and true, while nurturing gratitude, and making a list of things we have to be thankful for. This can help banish anxiety, and create new possibilities for awakening to the LOVE we already have in our lives.
- Pay attention to, or even research actual statistics. For example, when we experienced fear about traveling, we looked up statistics on terrorism. In doing this, we realized the actual likelihood of being caught in an act of terrorism were very minuscule. (1 in 20 million)
- Read a book about overcoming fear and being present, to LOVE…
- Reconnect to LOVE by listening to a song, experiencing a sunrise, or sunset, watching a movie, looking at pictures, or doing any activity that brings joy, and triggers loving memories and feelings. After all, we become what we behold.
- Meditate, pray, or find a quiet place where you can become present to your thoughts, and to the presence of LOVE all around you and within you…
Myss, Caroline M. Anatomy of the Spirit: The Seven Stages of Power and Healing. New York: Harmony, 1996. Print.
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